Sometimes the law can't be foller'd no way... Not in decency, anyways. They's lots of times when you can't... Sometimes a fella got to sift the law. -- Pa Joad, from John Steinbeck's The Grapes of Wrath
Back in January I wrote a post called Radical Honesty, after Brad Blanton’s book of the same name. I said that I was going to do a 30-day trial in which I had to share my thoughts in any given moment with whoever was around, totally uncensored. So if I ran into you and my immediate thought was that you’re ugly, then I would have to say so.
Of course, I didn’t go through with that trial. It was way too scary. It was also silly considering I hadn’t read the book yet. I didn’t really understand what radical honesty was all about. But now, 7 months later, I have read the book, and I have begun to embrace the path of honesty. This is easily one of the most important books I’ve ever read. For anyone who is committed to living consciously, being in touch with their feelings, mental-emotional well-being, and having strong, loving relationships, this book is necessary. It will challenge you, but you need this challenge.
I was originally just going to write an article on this, but I felt more compelled to record a podcast. That required some honesty for me to accept. :P
This podcast write-up will take the form of a messy list. I would like for you to enjoy it, but if you don’t, well, I resent you for disliking my work. But, I appreciate you for giving it a chance. Thank you.
In this podcast, I discuss:
Thinking vs. Being: Living in the mindjail vs. living in reality
Polarity: The importance of honesty on the lightworker path (path of service and love)
What should you do [with your life]? Answer: You always know what to do. The tricky part is accepting what to do and actually doing it.
Why it is important to express anger: things don’t go away just because we numb ourselves to them or ignore them. We have a subconscious mind, and things that bother us will take a heavy, big-butted seat in that subconscious and bear down on us. What we withhold destroys us from within. Don’t bottle things up—get it out!
Levels of Consciousness: at the lower levels you are trapped in the mindjail; once you reach the higher levels you finally begin to be.
How to express anger constructively: “I resent you for…” (something specific the other person did)
Snowball effect: The more you think, the more you cram yourself into the mindjail that is your inaccurate beliefs about reality. You’ll try harder and harder to analyze your problem, and in so doing get further stuck in it. Likewise, the more you allow yourself to be, the harder it becomes to ignore your feelings. The more you think, the more you think. The more you be, the more you be. Momentum is the lifeblood of humanity.
What it means to be in love: to simply be with another person. This person takes you out of your mindjail and into the full, beautiful experience of raw reality.
My story of moving from the mindjail to being: where the title “Living a Real Life” comes from
If you want to end suffering, you must suffer. If you want to feel good, first you have to let yourself (not make yourself) feel bad. You’ll soon find out, however, that when you stop criticizing and thinking about your feelings, they aren’t actually that bad—not even anger and sadness. When you just let them be what they are, they’re fine. In fact, they’re friendly.
A touch on objective and subjective reality: similarities to thinking and being. “Waking up” to subjective reality and realizing that your ego (body-mind; physical identity) isn’t all you are is very similar to moving past thinking into being. You identify with your ego, but also with the consciousness that observes and directs your ego. Likewise, you still think, but the mind becomes more of a fun plaything. The mind is a much better servant, it turns out, than master. You still can get lost in thought sometimes, but now thought occurs within a larger context of being. There is a background-reassurance that you are okay, and you always remember that you are conscious and that you can fully enter this state of being at any time.
Speaking in the fashion of radical honesty seems a bit robotic at times, especially when looked at in plain text. But it doesn’t feel robotic at all—it’s quite the opposite, in fact. I feel much more liberated and expressive this way. It’s nice. I like nice.
I make many references to my book in this podcast, such as when I talk about levels of consciousness, polarity, and objective and subjective reality. I don’t discuss these concepts in full, but just enough for you to understand them in the context of the podcast. If you want to learn more about them, well, I think you can figure out where to go. ;)
This is the cleanest podcast I’ve done. Perhaps I’ll prove myself wrong in the editing process, but I think I used barely any verbal fillers such as “um” or “ah,” and there aren’t too many times where I stumble on my words and succumb to the silence of uncertainty. I think the main thing I could improve is volume: it could certainly be louder. If you try to listen to this without headphones (especially on a computer) you’ll probably need to turn the volume all the way up, unless you have a powerful set of speakers. Perhaps I just need to sit a little closer to the laptop when I talk.
You can listen to the podcast by clicking on the video below or by going right to YouTube at this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIusF4syrCM