What is a Real Life?: Excerpts

These are three excerpts from my book, What is a Real Life?

However, they are not from the final, complete version of the book. You can get that here, on Amazon.



The first excerpt is from Chapter Two, “Polarity,” under the final section, “The Experience of Lightwork.”


"My ability to recover from mistakes and from struggle grows. I am more quickly able to recognize the lesson in every situation, and thus see that, in essence, no mistake was made. I can apologize to and forgive myself, and then open myself to possibility and to trust in the universe once again.

It is hard to deny that people are incredibly kind to me. I am often amazed at how much others have given to me: I used to have a sense that people are just “too good” to me. Often without realizing it, people do so much to help me to grow, and to thus better serve them in turn. I can take care of a lot of things for myself, yet support is all around me. To give in return for what I have received does not feel like an obligation. I do not feel the anxiety of everlasting debt for all I have received. Instead, life says to me, Yes, you can have all of this—and more. It is ours for the giving. It is only natural that I give. It simply arises out of the growth others have facilitated for me. And the best thing that I can give, I have found, is myself.

It seems that I can never be irreversibly hurt. Even when I am sad the universe still takes good care of me. I just don’t appreciate it as much in the moment is all. Yet, the universe is always forgiving. My life is incredibly gratifying—especially when it isn’t. I know that when I suffer I am on the verge of breakthrough. For me, to suffer is to be alive. As in all things, there is beauty in suffering. My tears, these days, are most often tears of joy—especially when I do creative, service-focused work such as writing this book. I am amazed both at what I have to offer the world and what the world has to offer me."


The second excerpt is from the sub-section “Communication,” from Chapter Five, “Using Subjective Reality.”


"The basic purpose of communication... is catharsis. You share your thoughts so that you can let go of them, and move a step closer to oneness and to pure love. Communicating also helps to keep you in check with what is true for you, since you will know when you open your mouth to speak (or even move your hands to write) whether what you are sharing is empowering or disempowering—accurate, or inaccurate. You will feel this knowing throughout your whole body.

The point in subjective communication, then, is to be as honest as possible. The longer you stick with this type of communication, the less you try to skew your words in a way that you assume the other person would like to hear them. This is whether you try to avoid saying words you think will offend them or that they won’t understand. Those things won’t be your primary concern anymore: the impression you make doesn’t matter as much as the connection you forge. What’s interesting is that when you communicate solely based on self, you actually communicate better. You strike a chord with others more often. They appreciate your depth and honesty.

The feedback you receive from them reveals even more about yourself. As you speak to another person you will constantly wonder why this particular person is in your reality right now. You will generally feel inclined to apologize, to forgive, to be grateful, and to express love—even if you only keep thoughts of these things in your mind, rather than articulate them. These four tasks allow us to return to a state of oneness. Be attentive and listen carefully to all that is around you; but, be especially attentive to other human beings, for you may come upon a profound truth about yourself."


The third excerpt is from Chapter six, “What is Real?—Part Two,” under the section, “Levels of Consciousness.”


"At (the level of) Pride and below people worry about how they look from an outsider’s point of view. They may say that they don’t care what other people think of them, but this is just another defense which they use to inflate their egos. They are kidding themselves when they say this. In truth, they are concerned with a blended objective reality: the opinions of others matter quite a lot to them. Beyond Pride, you can start to come to terms with yourself from the inside. What matters now is what you think of yourself, and honestly and completely so. Of course, this is the only thing that ever mattered—the fact is simply more apparent now.

At the lower levels- especially the level of Pride- we tend to see ourselves as more intelligent than all others. In our heads we boast about how these people are stupid for doing this, and those people are weak for doing that. Simultaneously, though, we believe we are inescapably inferior. We enter most situations with a high level of defensiveness, attempting to prove ourselves as worthy. Yet, when we gaze into the eyes of another human being, we only see our own inadequacy staring down at us. The level of Pride is where the narcissist… becomes a monstrous creature to contend with. Such is the case whether the narcissist is overt, and openly puts himself on display, or is covert, and gives off to all a false impression of humility but, on the inside, sees himself as quite special. Inside the specialness, of course, is hollow inadequacy. The monster thrashes and roars at the inadequacy which dines on it, but in time inadequacy eats the monster alive. To reach the end of Pride is to finally recognize the power struggle of inferiority and superiority and to at last experience the inferiority with no resistance, transcending it thus. To reach the level of Courage is to watch the monster die, and to accept the true self with all of its quirks, interests, and feelings as a being to, at last, be loved, and who can show herself to the world."

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